What is Real Men Share?

Real Men Share attempts to offer men a space to describe their own lived experiences as men. We aim to attract a diverse population of men who seek resonance and empathy, as well as critical reflection and personal growth. Through the vulnerable sharing of our stories, non-accusatory discussion, and non-defensive listening, Real Men Share aspires to reclaim modern masculinity. You can read more about our mission and approach here.

How does it work?

1. You submit your real story.

You (person who identifies as a man) share a real story about your life that you think will resonate with other men, or about which you want feedback from other men. You can be anonymous or not. Click here to submit a story.

2. Your story gets context:

We select stories, or excerpts of stories, that we think will be most helpful for other men to read, process, and discuss. We’ll introduce your story with some context for the topic on which your story touches. Crucially, we also offer discussion questions for processing, solo, with friends, or in a men’s group. Click here to meet our team.

3. Your story sparks a wider discussion:

We share your story as widely as we can. We publish it here, and also post it to Reddit, and online magazines that will repost it. Click here to read our Conversation Threads, which offer stories from multiple writers on the same topic, like porn, body image, or sex.

4. see the impact of your story:

We encourage you to leave an email address (it can be one that still keeps you anonymous) so that readers who are impacted by your story can connect with you. This is totally optional, but our founder, Zach, really recommends this. He created this platform in large part because he published personal stories about his masculinity under a pen name, and was astonished and changed by the email conversations his stories started with readers from around the world. Click here to read a letter from the founder.

Featured Article:

Topics: Porn, Sex & Relationships

Corbon grapples with his kinky, degrading sex life and the fact that he’s also kind of a sweet guy - and even has become a real listener and support for some of the women he’s been with who have sexually traumatic histories. But...he’s not sure he deserves to feel like such a “good guy” in the end. Click here to read Corbon’s full story.

Discussion Questions:

1. Have you ever judged, or been judged, by a partner for your sexual fantasies?

2. Do you ever feel like you’re “faking” being a “good guy” because of your degrading fantasies? Do you think having “dark” fantasies can make you a “bad” person, or what does it say about us if we like things rough?

Want to read more?

Dive into a Conversation Topic.

Click on an image below to go to the blog for that conversation topic.